If you often get tired after a fun hangout, you probably have wondered why introverts feel drained after socializing. We don’t just like to be alone because we want to. We need this alone time to be able to recharge after a long day.
Spending time with people requires energy and some kind of mental and emotional preparation. Having our alone time is how best we restore all the zapped energy from the busyness at work or school.
How much alone time an introvert needs totally depends on how much energy is lost—It varies. At the same time, it is important to know how much alone time is too much.
“Why do I feel tired after work?” I questioned myself.
Last month, I was at work six days a week: Monday to Saturday, from 9 am to 5:30 pm. Initially, I worked on just weekdays. But out of the blue, Saturday was added to my work schedule without room for negotiation. I was then left with only Sunday to spend my alone time, and that’s even if I decide to stay off church.
I felt my space invaded and my thoughts went wild: What happens to my Saturday for community engagement? What happens if I just want to sleep on a Saturday morning? What happens to my Media duties in church?
The enthusiasm with which I once went to work with, was gone. Each day, I became mentally and physically tired. The Lagos traffic didn’t even spare me. Well, it wasn’t like the traffic congestion was never there, I just became more aware of it. I got overstimulated. I lost my spark!
More on why introverts feel drained
Introvert hangover: When an introvert has been too long at a party, a networking event, or on a conversation that demands so much attention, what follows is an introvert hangover. We have our socializing limits. When the line is exceeded by overstimulation, we naturally withdraw into ourselves.
Stress: Introverts get overwhelmed easily and this is also why introverts feel drained a lot. What could be an exciting experience for an extrovert, can throw an introvert off balance. Change, spontaneity, and pressure are really hard nuts for introverts to crack.
Battery too low: This is what happens when an introvert is never alone. You get easily irritated, tired, incapable of making clear decisions, you lose focus easily, anxiety sinks in, and you just get generally uninspired.
When introverts feel drained, how do they recharge?
Now that we have gone through the reasons why introverts feel drained, here are surefire ways that introverts can recharge:
Meditate: Mindfulness for introverts can not be overemphasized. It is the key to fighting negative and recursive thoughts. If you do not know how to practice meditation, you can use apps that make it easy for you. The simple habit app is a good one to check out. You can also read more about the usefulness of mediation for introverts.
Socialize in small groups: When you have to go out to have fun in groups, go in small groups. The larger the crowd the more energy that will be lost.
Practice stress management: Know when you are stressed. And where possible, remove yourself from the situation. If you are in a closed space or have been too long at a party; you can step out.
Take a break from whatever it is that is stressing you out and go to a quiet place where you can recharge.
Listen to music: The soul loves music, and there’s a song for every moment— Play what soothes when you need healing! And what rocks, when you need the heat!
Read or write: Recreational reading refreshes the mind. Read something that is fun for you, not any serious book or topic. You can write as well, writing is therapeutic!
Gratitude journal: Keep a gratitude journal. It is a powerful tool that can help you stay positive, happy and mind free. It helps you focus on the things that bring you joy.
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